What Every Graduate Has To Look Forward To

Congratulations graduates! We are all so very proud of you.

Best wishes for your career ahead!

In an ideal world your transition from college student to working professional world be seamless. If for some reason that is not the case, you may start doubting your choices “Maybe I chose the wrong major”, or “ why did I wait so long to start looking for a job”.

You’ve heard it before: the economy sucks!! Finding a job where you are actually putting your degree to use is going to me hard (damn near impossible). Hell finding a job waiting on tables is going to be hard too (much harder than you would have ever imagined). On top of dealing with finding a job and the upcoming student loan payments the are looming, I also want to prepare you for the family scrutiny.

Be prepared to be bombarded with:  

What kind of job does a degree in (insert current degree) get you?

How are your students loans- this is just my opinion but I believe anyone who asks you this question should make a payment toward said loan

Don’t you wish you had majored in (insert degree that you don’t have)?

What are your future plans –Polite but still being nosy. You know very well my future plan is to find a JOB

Then of course you're gonna run into a few people with a memory lapse so 3 days later they're still going to ask you: Did you find a job yet?

You may one day eventually avoid family functions so you don’t run into these folks and have to endure their questions.  I’m praying it doesn’t come to this for you but if it does, its happened to the best of us.

Also keep in mind these are the same people who helped you celebrate by attending your graduation and gave you those envelopes filled with money .Be gentle! Try not to say the first thing that comes to mind although I would not hold it against you.

Dear Friends & Family

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Why don't you believe me when I say I'm happily single?

Yes I'm 31 with no kids or a husband in sight but I'm happy. Really, I am. 

Why is that so hard believe? I've made peace with it. I didn't dream it this way but this is the situation and I'm not going to let it consume me nor am I going to compare myself to other people. 

I know you love me and you want the best for me. I need you to make peace with the situation too. The 1st step is to refrain from asking/telling me the following:


1. When are you getting married?
2. You're too picky. That's why you're single
3. Don't you want children? When are you going to have some babies?
4. At your age you should be married. So and so just just got married
5. All men are dogs. Just pick one and have a baby

In the meantime I'm working on me and making good use of my time as a single woman. Comparing myself to other people and their accomplishment will kill my spirt and block my blessings

New Rules of Dating When Meeting the Family

No good man (by good I mean respectful) would introduce you to his family (mom, dad, brother, sister, kids) if he's not serious about you, Right??? 

For my parent's generation, meeting the family meant that your relationship is solid, it was a moment that you waited for. The person is serious about you, they are not dealing with other people and they see a future with you hence why you are meeting the family. 

The dating rules have changed  “meeting the parents,” mean nothing! His sister, his mother and his best friend from elementary will take you in with open arms (cute shoes girl! they hiring where you work?) knowing that he’s still in a situation with his baby mama and/or his on again off again girlfriend of 5 years.   

 We cant’ make assumptions.  Don’t let an invite to Easter Sunday or a family social make you think that you are exclusive or have you walking around with your guard down.

Processed as you were before the invite to “meet the family”. It’s more than likely just a date/outing where he doesn’t have to spend $$$

Sad I know, but we can’t overthink things… it’s not worth the heartache.