7 Rules of Dating From a Serial Dater

I’m no dating expert (I don’t even know what qualifies someone as a dating expert) but I decided to put together a list of dating tips. Keep in mind these rules are according to the rules that I’ve made up my mind


  1. If I’m not married I’m single
  2. Us going on 1 or a few dates doesn’t equate to were dating/in a relationship. Until we are exclusive, I can date multiple men at the same time
  3. Social Media- No I’m not on Instagram or Twitter. I’m not sharing my social media platforms this is were I vent and share my random thoughts. You having my Instagram is like you having a playbook on all things Lovely  
  4. Traditional rules of dating still apply –ask me out, have a plan, open doors & pull out chairs
  5. No chain food restaurants – really it's just a matter of preference I don’t like chain food restaurants and prefer to dine where linens and silverware on the table . This has nothing to do with $200 dates 
  6.  Lets ease into texting. All out conversations cannot done by text. I need to hear your voice and to know that you can hold a conversation
  7. We will be putting our conversation skills to work- a little small talk,  you ask a question, you allow me to answer, I ask a question and so on.  And PLEASE Keep up with trends and current events so we will have things to talk about. That means READ! For me there’s nothing sexy than a man that reads and can hold a conversation. 

Truth Moment- It’s been a while since I’ve met anybody new. I get in these bouts where I’m out being social in hopes of meeting somebody and then I get turned off by the whole dating/meeting somebody thing. By society's standard something must be wrong with me to be 31, single (never married) no children but me I like to think I have a couple more years before I start hyperventilating ……maybe or maybe not

Come to think of it I know a lot of former 31 yr old who are in their 40’s now still single (never married) no children who regret that they didn’t make a bigger effort in meeting someone or being more sociable. Lots of regrets and a whole lot of shoulda, woulda, coulda. I’m vowing to make a bigger effort on my part. I’m getting back in the dating game I’ll be sure to keep you updated.

P.S. I’m just going to put it out there, I’m open to blind dates

Is There Such A Thing As Being 'Too Broke To Date'?

The conversations I have with my male friends always leave me enlightened and sometimes making me hate men. Their take and perspective on love, women & sex sometimes has me questioning the male species (not that I wasn’t questioning them before). We all know that women and men think differently so for me (and for them I suppose) having an outside party to help you see things in another light or tell you that you are overacting is healthy.

You’re probably thinking "is this girl going to broadcast her friend’s relationship issues?" No!!!!!! I would never do that; I’m not that type of friend. But I wanted to share my takeaway from the conversation.

So long story short without giving away too many details. My friends' friend called him asking about the morning after pill.  He wants to know if I've ever used the pill before, and how he should approach the subject of taking the pill to a girl he’s been dating for the past few months.  I don’t personally know my friends' friend but when he called I happened to be around so me being a women he asked me about the morning after pill.

So I shared with him what I knew:

1.     Its an over the counter drug. No prescription needed

2.     You use the morning after pill within 72 hours (3 days) after you have had unprotected sex or experienced birth control failure.

3.     It costs anywhere from $50 t0 $56

This is where the conversation went left for me. The price of the pill bothered him. Why does it cost that much? Don’t they give them out free somewhere? $56 dollars!!!!! No judgment on my end cause you never know someone’s situation it could be a bad week, or maybe it’s the first of the month. I’ve been there so I understand.  But I learned that he’s not working and has been out of work for a long time. THIS is where I step onto my soapbox.  If you have been out of work and cant afford $56 dollars you shouldn’t be laid up with nobody! Now this goes for men & women. Seems to me that if you are out of work your focus should be on finding a JOB!  He’s been out of work for a long time, and he’s been dating this girl for a couple of months. So that left me wondering if his pockets are so dry, how can he even get it up? 

I would like to hear your thought.s Do you see nothing wrong in his situation or are you like me? If you don’t have $56 dollars and you don’t see the money coming from anywhere in sight, sex should be the last thing on your mind. 

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