Why I Chose Not To Be A Bitter Baby Momma..

by: GeGe Pierre

Maybe it’s just me but I find the term “baby momma” to be so disrespectful. To me it’s a negative connotation of an unwed woman birthing bastard children. I prefer the term, child’s mother. Yes, I know it’s the same thing but the term baby momma just screams DRAAAMA!! I often hear stories of “baby mommas” putting their child’s father through hell.  A baby momma will keep the kids from seeing their father and put him on child support even when he is doing his part. A baby momma will tell their friends and family misinformation on how negligent the father is. A baby momma will spend her child support payment on bundles, stiletto nails, and Instagram boutique sales to get right for a Lil’ Boosie concert while her kids have Kool-Aid for dinner. A baby momma has no regards or respect for her child’s father. She will scheme, con, and become vengeful and spiteful. Sounds draining, huh? Why would a woman want to go through all that? Well, because she is upset that the father of her child(ren) does not want to be with her or she is upset that he has moved on. She goes on a tirade when things don’t go her way and is quite delusional. She refuses to believe that whatever she and the father of her child(ren) had is nonexistent. I am not trying to say that is ALWAYS the case when it comes to co-parenting, but when I hear “baby momma”, or “baby daddy” that is the dramatics I envision. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect or holier than thou. I am the mother of an infant and not with the father. He and I felt despite the circumstances, being cordial for the sake of our daughter was more important. Him being in her life and providing is all that I ask.. I am not spiteful, vindictive, or vengeful. I chose to have a baby by a man that was not my husband so he really can’t get all the blame. At the end of the day, we have a beautiful little girl to raise. My energy is reared towards raising a future queen, teaching her to never settle, and to always keep God in her life. I DO NOT have time to waste negative energy on her father because shit didn’t work out. It is what it is. If it is meant to be, it’ll be. If not, wipe those tears, pray to God daily, and chuck up the deuces.

Hey. I am GeGe and I am a happy mother of a five month old daughter.