LinkedIn to Get LinkedUp?

I haven't found love in my everyday life, and I’ve always been opposed to online dating. I’m more a fan of traditional dating, nothing is sexier than having a man approach, hold an engaging conversation, ask for my number and then follow up with a phone call. Plus the thought of meeting some one online scares the hell out of me (too many Law and Order and Criminal Minds episodes).

I said I was going to make more of an effort to meet someone and my girlfriend has been telling me about this dating app called LinkedUp! No hiding your identity like on other dating sites. On the LinkedUp! site your profile is linked to your professional LinkedIn profile and as my girlfriend puts it "at least I’ll know that he has career" – I’m sold!

Using the LinkedIn app I will be able to see where he works, where he went to school and also if we have any connected contacts via LinkedIn. I like to think that if you have a LinkedIn profile you value your career so the quality of men maybe different from the ones I’m meeting on the street (crossing my fingers).

I’m really considering downloading the app and creating a profile. I’ve even been updating my LinkedIn profile just in case I do decide to finally give online dating a shot.

I’m thinking that of all the online dating sites, this would be the safest dating site. What do you think would you date someone you met on LinkedIn ?

2 Questions I Don’t Want To Be Asked By A Man

1.     Can I Kiss You?

-If you have to ask permission like we're in school the answer is No!!!!!!!! It’s most likely the wrong time and/or not desired. I would rather hear I really want to kiss you right now," as opposed to "Can I kiss you?"

2.     Did You Come Yet? 

-Wait what? If you have to ask that means you're not doing something right.  You just pumping in which case I need you to stop.  

Lets hear it ladies, any questions you don’t want a man to ask you? In love with and/ or otherwise 

Dear Friends & Family

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Why don't you believe me when I say I'm happily single?

Yes I'm 31 with no kids or a husband in sight but I'm happy. Really, I am. 

Why is that so hard believe? I've made peace with it. I didn't dream it this way but this is the situation and I'm not going to let it consume me nor am I going to compare myself to other people. 

I know you love me and you want the best for me. I need you to make peace with the situation too. The 1st step is to refrain from asking/telling me the following:


1. When are you getting married?
2. You're too picky. That's why you're single
3. Don't you want children? When are you going to have some babies?
4. At your age you should be married. So and so just just got married
5. All men are dogs. Just pick one and have a baby

In the meantime I'm working on me and making good use of my time as a single woman. Comparing myself to other people and their accomplishment will kill my spirt and block my blessings

Men Are Queen Manipulators

Women are known to be queen manipulators. I agree, we do lot of things better than men and manipulation is one of them but as I encounter more “'I live with my baby momma but we not together' single men” or 'I’m not looking for anything serious at the moment',but Im actively dating and pursuing women.  I’m going to have to give it to the men. Instead of lying and tell you they're single and live alone and having to keep up with the lies, they are more straightforward and forthcoming about their situation (it's a manipulation tactic).

Now that he’s been honest & truthful with you the ball is in your court. If you decide to continue to see him, he will remind you of the adult conversation you had about his situation. He’s not guilty of anything other than being very forthcoming about his situation. 

What do you think: is it a manipulation tactic on the man's part or just a man being brutally honest?