Am I Wrong When I Say I don't Want to be a Baby Mama?

Do your girlfriends get offended when you say that you don’t want to be a baby mama???

I often get asked when I'm going to have children and my answer is always the same. 

A few weeks ago a friend of mine asked me when I am going to have some babies and without thinking twice I gave my usual response "When a find a good man, I don't want to be a baby mama."

Once I said it her whole demeanor changed. That's when it dawned on me. She's a baby mama. She's not the confrontational type so we didn’t get into the particulars nor did I try. Honestly, I didn’t know how to explain myself without things going left.

I didn’t mean to offend her nor did I think my comment had anything to do with her and her situation. It had everything to do with what I want and see for my life. 

Love, Marriage & Baby Carriage---everything in due time.

If for some reason things don’t work out that way or in that order then fine but I’m not going to go out of my way to interrupt this fairy tale. 

I’m 30 and single with no prospect in sight so it does seem like a fairy tale but not one that I’m willing to give up on anytime soon.

I don't think anyone knowly signs up to be a baby mama (an unwed mother) Its something that happens and  you deal with it as best you can.  Am I wrong when I say I don't want to be a Baby Mama?

Sherri Shepherd Forced to Claim a Child She Doesn’t Want

Can this lady catch a break!  First her marriage was built under false pretense. And even though she’s not the biological mother of the child, she’s forced to be a mother to a child after both she and her former husband agreed to have the baby and paid for the surrogate to carry the child.

This is a truly shouda, woulda, coulda moment.

She would have been better off going for full custody cause the baby is a money line to connect him to her. He wants that child support! The roles have been reversed!

It gets more sad! Imagine how this child is going to feel after she reads that her mother did not want her.

I for one don’t understand how Sheri has been able to stay friends with Niecey Nash after all of this, Niecey introduced the former couple. Hmmmmm.....

Blood Sweat & Heels has me questioning my love for A Belle in Brooklyn

It's Sunday morning and Bravo is playing last season’s episode of Blood Sweat and Heels gearing up for the new season that starts tonight so my background noise today while I get my Sunday started is the show.

My reason for setting up my DVR to record the show last season was to meet Demetria Lucas of A Belle in Brooklyn. I’ve been a faithful blog reader for years and purchased her book, A Belle in Brooklyn The go-to girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single. For me, the show would provide insight into Demetria life as a blogger, author and relationship expert.

While last season is playing I’m reminded why I stopped going on the blog as often as I did before and why I didn’t purchase her 2nd book. On the show Demetria is a mean girl.  She’s full of snarky comments and cattiness. If you’ve dealt with mean girls in your life before you will understand.

Most people go on a reality TV show to leverage into an opportunity and/or platform. Being that she already had a platform I’m wondering if her brand is suffering. I know I cant be the only one who’s noticed her as a mean girl or is turned off by who we see on TV after admiring her work for so long. 

She’s signed on for season 2, which leads me to believe that things cant be that bad so..... Here's to hoping.